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How to Conquer Pre-Proposal Panic

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How to Conquer Pre-Proposal Panic

It’s your big day.

The ring is ready. You have her parent’s blessings. You’ve planned the perfect proposal. Now, the final step is to get down on one knee and say these 4 simple words: Will you marry me?  

While this may sound easy, we’re talking about making one of the biggest decisions of your life. This is the moment that solidifies your commitment to each other. And if you have been keeping this proposal a secret, it’s normal to feel that things could go wrong in a million directions. What if she says no? What if she was expecting more? What if I say something wrong?   

The list of endless what-ifs could go on. But let us stop you right there. Take a deep breath and tell yourself it’s okay to be nervous. We’re here to help you turn your pre-proposal jitters into positive energy, so you can have the confidence to create a memorable experience for you and your loved one.

Think about why you’re nervous

The first step to conquering your nerves is to confront them. Ask yourself: why are you nervous? Maybe you’re afraid that she’ll say no. Or maybe you’re afraid of making a mistake that would make the plan go south. Whatever it is, it’s very likely that you are overthinking and second-guessing yourself.

Try not to confuse these negative thoughts running through your mind with the reality of how you feel about your partner. Remind yourself that you are proposing because you love her, and you want to spend the rest of your life with her. So relax and don’t let the voices in your head get the best of you.

Practice, practice, practice

If you have words to say before popping the question, write a script and practise in front of your mirror as many times as you need to. Stare into your own eyes and imagine they are hers.   

If you’re having trouble with finding the right words, remind yourself of all the reasons why you love her. Think about how you first met, your first dates, and why marrying her is the best decision you’ll ever make. When your sincerest self comes through, everything will naturally fall into place.

Make sure everything is set

This sounds like a no brainer but we cannot stress this enough! If you’ve made reservations at a location, make a quick call to touch base with them. If you’ve asked friends and family to help out, check in with them to make sure they know what to do. And most importantly, know where you are keeping your ring. Try to avoid clichés like putting your ring in food or a wine glass. Mishaps are more likely to happen when the ring is out of your reach. So keep it within your control and remind yourself that you’ll be fine when the moment arrives.

Be okay with making mistakes

So what if something doesn’t go according to plan? Don’t panic. Recognize the possibility that things might go wrong and focus on adapting to the situation.

At the end of the day, it’s important to focus on the big picture. Don’t let the small missteps ruin this perfect moment with your partner. Besides, the little imperfections are what will make your proposal memorable.

Photograph this beautiful moment

No proposal is ever easy. But with these tips, we hope that you can overcome your nerves and create a beautiful moment that emblemizes the start of your journey together.

Whether you prefer a private occasion or a big celebration after the proposal, consider photographing this precious moment. It could as simple as having a close friend take a few candid snapshots, or you could seek a professional photographer for a more elaborate and artistic setup. Whichever you prefer, capturing this moment through the lens makes it all the more special and memorable.

If you’ve engaged us for a bespoke engagement ring in Singapore, we provide Lucy & Mui, Moments as a complimentary service. Our photographer will work with you to capture the beautiful moments on your special day, crystalizing this precious milestone into raw, authentic images.

Behind every proposal, there is a special story that every couple will hold dear to their hearts. We would love to be a part of yours.

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